Lessons Learned And 7 Secrets To Fixing Your Marriage

This #FixingYourMarriage post is sponsored by Linqia and its advertiser. As always, my thoughts on life and Marriage Fitness are my own.

Once upon a time there was a girl. She grew up in a world of southern gentlemen, rugged hunters, and hard working farmers. In a place that cornfields stretched for miles. And getting lost on back country roads meant ending up somewhere you’d never been for a few minutes. 

The “she” was me. And the first time I remember wishing I could chase the clouds was when I was five. It held a different poignancy when I was 14. And still another by 18; when I walked a good 3+ miles to the local travel agent and bought a one-way train ticket to the big skies of Montana.

And that still stands as one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for myself. But it wasn’t easy for my parents. Or my extended family. Or my finances. I barely had enough for the journey back.

To which I stayed approximately 14 days before boarding a jet for California. Taking off in that plane, it lifted through the clouds and I felt reborn. And went on to travel the country with National Service and Disaster Relief programs. Which garnered me incredible scholarships at one of the top private liberal arts colleges in Michigan.

I was nearly 21 now…it was time to think about my future. At least that is what I was told. I needed to “do something” with my life. Yet living out of books, only had me longing for the horizon again. I compensated with 18-20 credit hours…becoming a lifeguard…switching schools…changing majors.

And I stayed the course too, until I met that perfect, handsome distraction. And thoughts about white picket fences, babies, and happily ever after filled my every thought. The future was ours now. And the sky wasn’t going anywhere.

I filed for divorce 14 years later.

And that still stands as one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for myself. But it wasn’t easy for my parents. Or my extended family. Or my finances. I barely had enough for the journey back.

They say the Universe conspires to help you. I now find myself in the same city my younger self loved most. Am enjoying the creative career I always aspired towards. And at a point where love can enter my life again? I was given the opportunity to view Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness series.

What strikes the biggest cord with me, are the audio sessions of real life people, with real life relationship issues. Many times, it was even difficult to hear the pain echoing in a woman’s answers. And I could easily identify with the hard questions Mr. Fertel constructs for when a person needs direction the most.

Because while I didn’t need someone to make my life decisions for me. What I did need was a better way to assess how far from a healthy relationship my marriage had strayed. Only then, did I find the resolve to take action. And for me, it meant starting over.

So the Marriage Fitness course could not have saved my marriage. But it would have certainly helped me assess the situation more clearly. It would have validated my emotions. And it will definitely educate me for building healthy relationships going forward. The very ones I’ll hope to meet chasing the clouds that have been waiting for me.

Get a free sample of what Mort Fertel can do for your relationship with “The 7 Secrets To Fixing Your Marriage”. An initial email will also have links to properly assess your marriage. You can easily unsubscribe at any time.